Global Empowerment Enterprises

Getting it Twisted!

I am sure you've heard this phrase from the new generation of people rising up in our world today. "To twist something means to distort the meaning or form of, to pervert"  When dealing with life issues, we can tend to twist some things up a bit. We blame others for things that they have nothing to do with and do not even know about. We pull them into our issues and begin to speak to them out of our own hurt and pain. We begin to see things through eyes of offense, anger and strife. We cannot see clearly enough to discern when someone is being nice to us, loving on us and caring for us. Our pain runs so deep that even the smidget of hope don't last because we can't see past the pain.

We fail to see that there are people that care about us, want the best for us, love us, want us to survive and thrive in this life. Some have been hurt in life to the point of distrusting everyone that comes their way, even if that person means no harm, he or she will never get the opportunity to show love.

When a heart is closed, when a mind is narrow, When trust is absent, When darkness hovers and when pain endures. You have a decision to make!  "Don't get it twisted!"

Either you are going to let go of your past or stay stuck and meander in the shadows of what could, would or should be. You have a decision to make!

Either you are going to rise up out of your bed of hopelessness and see the light that shines forth just for you. You have a decision to make!

Choose this day to get up. You've been here, at this place, long enough. It is not your lot in life to be pittiful, sorry, anger, hopeless, bitter, mad, irritated, frustrated and that If it ain't one thing it is another mentality! It is not your lot in life!

You have a decision to make, so....make it and I hope that you choose the way of love, the way of hope, the way of peace and the way of everlasting joy. Open the door....

New Relationship

When developing a new relationship,  you should not assume anything. The only way you will learn about the person is to ask questions, observe behavior and seek clarity on the cloudy situations. Often times, because it is a new relationship, we want to just let things go and see what happens, when, if it was addressed at the beginning, things would have not gotten worse. Because you are responsible for what happens in your life, you should never complain about what you allow. You cannot blame someone else for the misery you endure because you didn’t have boundaries. Your relationship should not be filled with rules that no one can live up to but you should have boundaries that should not be crossed. Both persons in the relationship should set realistic boundaries that will maintain the integrity and promote healthy relationship development.

Would I date me?

We can get very excited about meeting someone new especially if they possess certain idealistic traits we look for in a mate. Because of this, we ignore all the red flags. Red Flags are those signs that warn us of an impending problem, whether it be a certain habit, behavior, mentality or stronghold within another person that we may disagree with.  We may want so much to be in a relationship with someone that we rationalize it in our minds, “Its better to have something than nothing!” but after a while, it gets tired and you get miserable. Before seeking a relationship, be specific and realistic about what you really want. Ask yourself: Would I date me? If you possess anything that would be a threat to having a healthy relationship with someone then you should deal with those issues first.

When meeting someone new, Take it slow so that you can adequately learn about the person, ask the right questions, acknowledge the red flags and seek clarity.

Communication is key to the success of any relationship.

The Selah moment: Are you in a relationship that is moving too fast but afraid to say something to your partner? Do you notice some red flags that may be a problem for you down the road?

Action Steps: Set your emotions aside for a minute, reassess the relationship and be honest with yourself, first. Then be honest with your partner about how you feel. He or she may be feeling the same way. Open the door.